Female Friendships Help Us Resist Patriarchy

We can’t do this alone. When I was in college, my male friendships far outweighed female ones. I got along with men more easily, understood them better, and never felt like we were competing. Eight years later, I’ve become enlightened on the many layers of...

How Femininity Heals Perfectionism

When we honor feminine values equally, we experience greater love, connection, and balance. In my home studio, I set my iPhone to video mode, tapping to record. Stepping a few feet back from the camera, I breathed deeply as my fingers pressed to the keyboard keys, my...

Loving My Wild Woman

Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes inspires me to unravel layers of domestication. I grew up homeschooled in a traditional Christian community, and the adults said I should be “ladylike” to attract a husband. So when multiple men sexually abused me, I assumed it was my fault...

More Pleasure, Less Cultural Shame

And realized that sexual double standards hurt everyone. As I grew up, religious repression kept me abstinent; I had to escape the fear of hellfire. But by college, I became rebellious. Recently I realized that my sexual activity puts me in the top one percent of...

Doing Romance as a Sensitive, Empowered Woman

Though I’ve made it to the top one percent of promiscuous women in America, I am currently single. Over the past year, I took a break from sex and dating as I focused on deep inner work. After unraveling layers of patriarchal conditioning and narcissistic...